Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make

I see tons and tons of mistakes that women make, but I have a few specific ones that seem to be common with our gender.
By: B. Hamrick

1. Being Clingy

I don’t care if you are a dead ringer for Kristy Brinkley and have an outstanding personality; you aren’t getting anywhere with a guy if you are clingy. The fascinating thing about this is most women don’t even realize they are clingy. There are many ways to be clingy, but I’ve listed the most common below:

Telephone. Your guy should be calling you at least twice as many times as you call him. If he is supposed to call you at 5 don’t pick up the phone at 5:02 when you haven’t heard from him. If this is completely out of character for him and you are afraid something may be wrong, you can call him in an hour. This rule is especially important in the beginning of a relationship. Let him be the one to call you and make plans. Don’t call him everyday, and always have a good reason to call him (don’t try to make one up- you will sound so very lame). Also be sure to hang up with him before the convo goes stale. Oh, and when he calls you let it go to voicemail once in a while!Read More>>>

First-date Safety Tips for Women

This is great advice for anyone trying internet dating. Actually, no matter how you meet someone this article has smart tips for dating safely.

Ilissa

Online dating can open up the world for many of us that do not know where to meet the right person. For the shy person, online dating makes it much easier to meet new people without having to get up the courage to walk up and speak to someone in person. Although online dating can spark a truly wonderful relationship, there are steps women should take to ensure that the first date goes safely.

Bring a charged cell phone
Bring your cell phone with you and make sure that it is fully charged. Keep your cell phone on at all times. Your cell phone will be invaluable if you are in need of emergency help.

Let a close friend or family member know where you are going
It is always safe to let someone know where you will be for the evening and when you will be returning home. Have this friend check up on you during the date to make sure you are alright. Have a code word or code phrase ready that only the two of you know. If things are not safe, use the code word or phrase. This will let your friend or family member know that you need help and do not feel safe trying to leave.
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Single and Lonely

Being single has its benefits. You get to do what you want when you want. You get to focus on your own growth and learn what makes you happy. But sometimes being single can be lonely. Loneliness is a normal part of the human condition. Once in a while loneliness is not such a bad thing.

Ilissa


If you find yourself laying in bed at night alone and feeling lonely and wishing that there was someone next to you, take comfort in the fact that most, if not all, single people feel that way at some time or another. It is not at all uncommon, but it can be a problem when it causes you to settle for the first man or woman that comes along in an effort to avoid feeling lonely.

If loneliness avoidance is something that has motivated you to get into relationships in the past, it is important to recognize that this is absolutely not a healthy reason for being in relationship. If you choose to wait for Mr. or Ms. Right to come along instead, you will be getting into a relationship with the right person for the right reasons and then you won't have to feel lonely ever again. You will be with that person for a lifetime. If you don't wait and get into the first relationship that comes along, chances are it will not work out and you will continue to experience periods of loneliness until you learn this important lesson.

Being single does not actually have to mean feeling lonely. Read More>>>

Perfect First-Date Ideas

Thinking about asking someone out on a date? Unsure where to go and what to do? This article gives you lots of great ideas and still keeps safety in mind. Have a good time on your date and please tell us how it went!

Ilissa

She's agreed to a first date. Where should you go? What should you do?

Of course, the objective of a first date is to see if there will be a second. Allow time for that, but not too much time, in case the date's a bust. And for now, focus on the present. Here are some great ideas for first-date outings:

1. Some prefer an activity. Hitting golf balls, playing miniature golf, or strolling around a large shopping mall, with its variety of activities -- restaurants, drop-in eateries, places to sit and talk or to listen to live music, or even window shopping -- will fill the time.

2. Group events will show how your date interacts with others. Picnics rank high; they're casual. If the date gets boring, go kick a soccer ball.

3. Local events such as street fairs, festivals, and concerts-in-the-park are often free and will keep you busy. County fairs teem with activities. Guys, be aware -- she may ask you to swing the hammer and ring the bell. Added plus: corn dogs and cotton candy. Read more>>>

Find the Partner You Want: Make a list and check it twice

Tired of going solo? Looking for a lover who is also your best friend? Maybe you need to figure out exactly what it is you actually want in a mate. Don't expect to get all the items on your list checked off by one human person! Be flexible and prioritize. Which items on your list are non-negotiable?

Read on to learn more...

Ilissa

Wouldn't it be nice to be able to choose what you want in a partner and get it, like ordering food in a restaurant? "I'll take one caring person who is ready to have a long-term relationship and wants to cherish me. And can I have a side of a large bank account, please, and I'll finish with a sports fan that’s athletic. Hmm, what do I want to drink? How about a pint of likes to travel. Thanks, and oh, I'm kind of in a hurry so can you ask the chef to put in my order ASAP?"

When you eat out, you read the menu, get clear about what you want, then order it. Magically, it comes to you. What if you could do the same when it comes to choosing a good partner for yourself? Of course you can't just choose a partner from a menu, yet you do have a lot more choice than you may realize. You are making choices all the time, either actively or passively. So if you've been making choices all along, why don't you already have what you want in a partner? Perhaps it's because, like many of us, you haven't realized that you need to clarify what you want before you can choose well for yourself. When you order food from a menu, you know that you need to specify what kind of salad dressing you want or how rare you'd like your steak. Otherwise, you'll have to take what the kitchen sends you. It's the same with relationships. When you get clear about what you desire, you open the way for it to come to you. When it comes to you, you will be able to recognize it and receive it.

Finding the partner who will make you happy is one of the most important things in life. Read More>>>

Suddenly Single: What It's Like To Go It Alone

Breaking up and being single again in your 30’s. How’s that sound to you scary, exciting, or depressing? What if that’s just the way it is for now, can you build a life for yourself that makes you happy? This article gives you a interesting view of being single in your thirties.

Ilissa

Breaking up in your 30s is very different to being free at 23. Lollie Barr explores how more and more "nearly-weds" are coping with a world that pins everything on pairing up.

At the age of 32, Marisa Knowles, a medical sales representative, felt her life was progressing just as she'd always planned. For three years, she had enjoyed a happy, loving relationship with her partner, 35-year-old Matthew Henry, even if he had seemed a little distant lately. Once they had saved enough for a deposit, they'd buy a house, get married and settle into the cozy domesticity she envied in so many of their friends. Read More>>>

The Prescription for Depression? "Oops, Never Mind!"

What do you think might help your depression; medication, psychotherapy, both? You decide.

If you would like to read more about the different kinds of anxiety disorders as well as the two types of depression please visit my website at www.ilissabanhazlmft.com. I always say that education is the first step to feeling better.

Monday March 1st, 1pm at www.ksgvradio.com, I will be discussing counseling for anxiety, depression and other mood disorders. My guest, Dietician, Jeri Evans will speak about the relationship between nutrition, anxiety, and depression.

Please read on...


Ilissa


Most of us have been depressed at one time during our lives, or know someone who is seriously depressed. When Prozac burst on the scene 20 years ago, it seemed that a major step had been achieved. More people responded well to the drug and fine-tuning it was easier than with past antidepressants.

Since then, taking antidepressants has become as normal as taking aspirin for a headache. Yet the ebullience of the Prozac generation was steadily undercut. Many patients didn't respond to the point that it is now conceded that more than half of depressed people may not benefit from any standard antidepressant. Along with alarming statistics about violence and suicide associated with these drugs, the treatment of depression has become increasingly shaky.

Now a major study has concluded that the entire approach of Prozac and related drugs has been wrong from the start. That's a very big "oops" on the part of pharmaceutical companies and the research they use as justification for their billion-dollar drugs. Read More>>>