Managing Election Anxiety

Are you feeling anxious about the coming election?
Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

Two of my closest friends aren't speaking. Since the summer, neither can be in the same room the other; it's like putting two pit bulls in the same cage. What caused their falling out? Was it money, job conflicts or a bad relationship? Nope, blame politics. One strongly believes Washington needs a change and the other thinks we should put a maverick in the White House. It's gotten so tense, no one wants to be around them.

Political experts say this is one of the most passionate presidential races in modern history. Read More>>>

Science Works to Conquer Junk Food Cravings

Is there ANYONE who cannot relate to this article???
Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

Like a pesky piece of gum on the bottom of your shoe, you can count on cravings sticking around for a while. And women struggle with cravings even more than their husbands or boyfriends, thanks to hormonal changes that occur around the menstrual cycle and during pregnancy. But there is hope! Use this advice from Bob Greene and TheBestLife.com to conquer your cravings for good.

Obviously, junk food cravings wouldn't be a problem if we craved healthy fare like produce, or if the answer to withstanding temptations was as simple as willpower. Unfortunately, cravings are a little more complicated than that.

First, there's a physiological component, suggests research from Brian Wansink, Ph.D., author of Mindless Eating. Read more>>>

Science Works to Conquer Junk Food Cravings

Is there ANYONE who cannot relate to this article???
Ilissa

Like a pesky piece of gum on the bottom of your shoe, you can count on cravings sticking around for a while. And women struggle with cravings even more than their husbands or boyfriends, thanks to hormonal changes that occur around the menstrual cycle and during pregnancy. But there is hope! Use this advice from Bob Greene and TheBestLife.com to conquer your cravings for good.

Obviously, junk food cravings wouldn't be a problem if we craved healthy fare like produce, or if the answer to withstanding temptations was as simple as willpower. Unfortunately, cravings are a little more complicated than that.

First, there's a physiological component, suggests research from Brian Wansink, Ph.D., author of Mindless Eating.Read more>>>

Men and Women Talk!

Why do men fear disagreeing with their wives or partners? I’m sorry; I know the word fear is not a favorite term for men to identify with. But, I do see it over and over again in my office. Men need to stop trying to figure out what they think their partner wants them to say and instead say what they really think.

First off to men's credit, women need to speak calmly and respectfully to their husbands/partners when they disagree with them. However, men need to tolerate some emotion.

Guys don't shut down! Tell your truth in a calm respectful way and then wait to see if you get a respectful response back. If not, your done, respectfully so. Be gentle. Your partner is acting out of emotion right now. No need for yelling. Ask for a time-out. When you try again start with something like, “That didn’t go very well did it?” Humor at no one’s expense is always a good icebreaker.

Simply, men and women speak your truth in a calm and effective manner. Calm yourselves before you speak. This new style of communicating will encourage other positive interactions.

Ilissa Banhazl, MFT www.ilissabanhazlmft.com

Comments are welcome: "Let me know if you try this and please tell me if something changes."

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How to Get 7 More Hours into Your Day

I think many women even men can relate to this article. I too, am trying to simplify my life so that I can accomplish things and still find time to smell the roses...
Ilissa

For the overscheduled, under-rested average American female, experts swear there are ways to make more time for yourself. Here are some strategies to try:

Handle things once (saves 15 to 20 minutes). When it comes to e-mail, voice mail, or paperwork, take instant action—i.e., read, answer, delete, file—so you don't have to come back to it. The accumulated time saved can add up to ten hours a month, says Jana Kemp, a Boise, Idaho, "time architect" and the author of No! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life.

Don't listen to the news first thing in the morning (30 minutes). Read More>>>

How to Get 7 More Hours into Your Day

I think many women even men can relate to this article. I too, am trying to simplify my life so that I can accomplish things and still find time to smell the roses...
Ilissa

For the overscheduled, under-rested average American female, experts swear there are ways to make more time for yourself. Here are some strategies to try:

Handle things once (saves 15 to 20 minutes). When it comes to e-mail, voice mail, or paperwork, take instant action—i.e., read, answer, delete, file—so you don't have to come back to it. The accumulated time saved can add up to ten hours a month, says Jana Kemp, a Boise, Idaho, "time architect" and the author of No! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life.

Don't listen to the news first thing in the morning (30 minutes). Read More>>>

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